“In those days, John the Baptist appeared in the wilderness of Judea, proclaiming, ‘Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near.’” I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what constitutes a good apology. Maybe this is because I keep stepping in it. This fall, I seem to have acquired the unfortunate superpower of unintentionally making people angry. My beloved seminary Hebrew professor Carson Brisson used to tell us the longest he’d ever gone without making a mistake was 14 seconds. These days, I’m pretty impressed by his record. Not sure the last time I went longer than 10. Maybe this is because we all keep stepping in it. We’ve recently emerged from the longest government shutdown in U.S. history, yet none of us feel like enough progress has been made that we won’t land there again. We are a people polarized, traumatized, and exhausted — and it shows. Our whole society is on edge, quick to criticize and slow to reconcile. Add to that the pressure of the holiday season, when expectations and emotions run high…well, let’s just say I think the precise theological description of the world right now might be “a dumpster fire.” Into our holy dumpster fire of an Advent Season, John the Baptist speaks a word about repentance. Most of what I know about apologies, I have learned in the rooms of a Twelve Step Program. The twelve steps talk not about apologies, but about amends. This is perhaps a better word than apology because making amends implies not just claiming mea culpa but also taking restorative action to fix – mend – the situation and relationship. This is the territory of repair and restoration. ...
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